If you’ve ever seen the drama on reality TV shows such as Bridezillas or Say Yes to The Dress – I can tell you from first hand experience, they’re not faking it. From my time working as a Bridal Sales Consultant I have my fair share of horror stories that make for seriously entertaining dinner party conversations…
From the funny stories like clients rocking up to fittings not wearing any underwear (I still can’t get my head around that one…) to family dramas about girls screaming at their sisters for getting pregnant in the lead up to the wedding (This the best news ever – WHY ARE YOU ANGRY?!).
So I’ve compiled a list of ‘Appointment Etiquette’ to help make your appointments go as smooth as possible – so you can be entirely focused on finding the dress of your dreams!
Making the appointment itself
- Give yourself plenty of time to shop. Eliminates the pressure. Often if your wedding is less than four months away you can incur rush fees.
- Always try to book an appointment not just walk in. It lets us give you the attention you deserve and you feel more special. Book during the week if you can and you’ll get more space, more of the dresses will be available and there will be a much calmer feel.
- Don’t try to jam all your appointments into one day. They take about an hour each and are physically and emotionally exhausting! You’ll get overwhelmed and the dresses are bound to all blur into one.What to bring (or not bring!) to the appointment
- Do NOT get a spray tan just before. While I know know you want to look good while trying on dresses, please appreciate these are worth thousands of dollars and will take hours for me to get out your spray tan – and isn’t pleasant for whoever it tries it on next!
- The same goes with keeping your makeup to a bare minimum, and whatever you do – please keep the red lips to a minimum on this day! The amount of red stains I find in dresses when cleaning them sometimes makes me feel like I work at a crime scene…
- Wear nude underwear and a strapless bra or a stick on bra – or no bra at all! The gowns are usually made to be worn without a bra so you’ll get more of an idea of how it will feel on your big day! If you wear underwear like Spanx it can make trying on multiple gowns easier as they just slip right on.About finding the right dress
- Don’t hold back with giving us details about your wedding! We want to know when it is, where it is, the look you’re going for etc. If you share your vision with us so we know what you want for your big day. The more pictures you bring in of your dream gown the better! We only get to know you for an hour, but by the end we want to know your insecurities about your body just as well as your best friends – and work with you to make you feel beautiful.
- Never hold back your true feelings about a dress. Even though you may be trying to be polite – we need you to be honest and vocal! This gives us feedback to move forward to other selections. Remember that the sales consultants are not the designers – we won’t get offended if you hate it!
About your body
- I have so many brides come in who try to make excuses about being out of shape “I’ve been injured and haven’t been able to work out” Don’t worry, we’ve all been there and we all have our insecurities! Embrace your body and love it!
- This is a big one! When we’re sizing you up for a gown, don’t insist on going gown a size because you’re planning to loose weight. We always hear that, it rarely happens. Sure in the lead up to the wedding stress can mean you loose a few kilos – but thats what last minute alterations are for! It is so much easier to take a gown in and nearly impossible to let it out. Tailors can often take a dress in up to three sizes without affecting the design – so unless you plan on loosing that much weight – trust the experts!About avoiding confusion
- Don’t try on too many dresses. I get that this is the one time in your life you have this opportunity and you want to play dress up with your friends. We don’t tell you not to try on too many just so we can get you in and out fast enough, we want you to have fun and love this experience – but trying on too many can make you end up feeling overwhelmed and so confused! After a while every dress will blend into one. When this starts happening leave the appointment and get some food into you before resuming – or wait another weekend.
- When you find yourself interested in more than one dress – don’t try to make a decision on the spot no matter how much the consultant pressures you! Wait a week and while you try to go to sleep at night picture your wedding, you’ll find yourself picturing yourself in one of the gowns… That’s the one for you!
- Keep your group limited. Too many clashing opinions has far too often left my bride in tears and left me with a headache. I always remind my bride that there will be one person at her wedding who may hate her gown – while everyone else loves it. Keep your group to around one or two, family works best but if they can’t come your closest friends who have known you the longest and knows your style.
- Don’t think that you need tears to tell you that you’ve found the one. While some brides shed tears, others don’t. Every bride is different and not everyone has that massive emotional moment, for some its a much more logical and methodological way.About your budget
- Set a budget before you even step foot into a shop, and don’t try on dresses outside of your price range. Many brides fall into this trap just for fun, but end up falling in love and then having unreal expectations for dresses that are within their budget.
- Never feel bad about asking for a discount, especially if the gown is over budget! They may be able to throw you in a free veil or accessories – we want you to have your dream gown and not have to compromise for something else just because of price.Feel free to comment or send through an email to firstname.lastname@example.org if you have any other questions about what to expect from appointments at bridal studios – and trust me, there is no such thing as a stupid question!